COMMUNITY SAFETY NETWORK
Domestic violence is a pattern of power and control.
Family violence, dating violence, intimate partner violence, domestic abuse: all describe the emotional, verbal, physical and/or sexual abuse that takes place within a relationship. Whatever the nomenclature, the Community Safety Network provides a refuge and resources for people seeking safety from violence.
It can be difficult to recognize domestic violence and the patterns of abuse in a relationship. Abusive relationships rarely start off that way; in fact, they usually begin like a whirlwind romance. A partner’s changing behavior may cause confusion. Explosive episodes are usually followed by good behavior, gifts, apologies, etc. Possessive and controlling behaviors can emerge and intensify quickly. The pervasive goal is to gain greater power or control.
Every relationship is different, making every case of domestic violence different. Community Safety Network helps people see the patterns and understand their personal situations.
People concerned about their partners’ abusive behaviors should consider these red flags:
- Degrading talk of never doing anything right
- Being jealous of friends and time spent away
- Discouraging contact with friends or relatives
- Embarrassment or shaming through put-downs
- Controlling every penny spent in the household
- Taking money or refusing to provide money for expenses
- Actions that instill fear
- Controlling visitors and actions
- Preventing independent decision-making
- Labeling as a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away children
- Preventing attendance at work or school
- Destroying property or threatening to hurt or kill pets
- Intimidation using guns, knives or other weapons
- Pressuring sex or sexual acts that induce discomfort
- Pressuring use of drugs or alcohol
People experiencing one or more of these behaviors should call our hotline 307-733-SAFE (7233)