Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a pattern of power and control.


Domestic violence is a pattern of power and control.

Family violence, dating violence, intimate partner violence, domestic abuse: all describe the emotional, verbal, physical and/or sexual abuse that takes place within a relationship. Whatever the nomenclature, the Community Safety Network provides a refuge and resources for people seeking shelter from violence.

Domestic violence can be difficult to recognize the patterns of abuse in a relationship. A partner’s changing behavior may cause confusion. Abusive relationships often begin well. Possessive and controlling behaviors can emerge and intensify. The pervasive motivation is to gain greater power or control.

Every relationship is different, making every case of domestic violence different. Community Safety Network helps people see the patterns and understand their personal situations.

The Signs

People concerned about their partners’ abusive behaviors should consider these red flags:

  • Degrading talk of never doing anything right
  • Being jealous of friends and time spent away
  • Discouraging contact with friends or relatives
  • Embarrassment or shaming through put-downs
  • Controlling every penny spent in the household
  • Taking money or refusing to provide money for expenses
  • Actions that instill fear
  • Controlling visitors and actions
  • Preventing independent decision-making
  • Labeling as a bad parent or threatening to harm or take away children
  • Preventing attendance at work or school
  • Destroying property or threatening to hurt or kill pets
  • Intimidation using guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressuring sex or sexual acts that induce discomfort
  • Pressuring use of drugs or alcohol

People experiencing one or more of these behaviors should call our hotline 307-733-SAFE (7233).

The Reality

Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It affects couples who are married or dating. It plagues all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

Abuse can take the form of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Abuse produces fear.

Community Safety Network helps people understand what they are experiencing. We use the Power & Control Wheel to diagram the tactics abusive partners use to keep control in their relationships from subtle behaviors like name-calling to more overt forms of physical violence.

Power & Control Wheel

Abusers may try to place blame for their behaviors. At Community Safety Network, we know fault falls only on the perpetrator. We believe in the people who call on us for help.