Power and Control Wheel – Equality

In a healthy relationship, partners may occasionally exhibit unhealthy behaviors; however, they recognize these behaviors, apologize, and create a plan to return to a healthy dynamic. This involves taking accountability, discussing the issue, and reaching an understanding that strengthens their bond.

Non-Threatening Behavior

Behaving in a way that makes the partner feel safe expressing themselves

Respect

Listening nonjudgmentally, being emotionally affirming and understanding, valuing opinions

Trust and Support

Respecting the right to one’s own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions

Honesty and Accountability

Admitting being wrong, accepting responsibility, acknowledging past violence or inappropriate behavior

Responsible Parenting

Sharing parental responsibilities, being a positive role model

Shared Responsibility

Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work, making important decisions together

Economic Partnership

Making money decisions together, supporting each other’s career goals, and creating mutually beneficial financial arrangements

Negotiation and Fairness

Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict, accepting change, and being willing to compromise